One of the first steps to trying to save a marriage is seeking for help. The main reason behind this is you need someone to shed light on whatever issues you have and give you insight into your issues. In such a situation, it is, therefore, important to get a professional counselor.
The counselor’s qualification is an important thing you need to look out for. In order for one to be called a professional counselor, there are various qualifications different places require them to have. When in doubt, do not hesitate to ask them, to provide proof of their license as a marriage counselor as this will keep your mind at ease.
The other thing you need to consider despite their qualification is their years of experience. A counselor who has been practicing for longer is often better equipped to handle your marital issues. A new counselor may not adequately address your problem as they have theoretical approaches to your problems.
The other choice you need to make as a couple is to go to a counselor that is unbiased. this being said, do not choose a counselor that has ties to your or is a friend to either one of you as their solutions will most likely favor one of you. It is best to go to a counselor whose solutions are not tied to their emotions towards you.
It is important to choose a couneslor who has similar beliefs like you two. of you two are religious or conform to a particular lifestyle, having a counselor that is against that may not set well with you. Find out ht their opinion is on issues like divorce, same sex marriage, polygamy, and polyandry are before you start on your counseling sessions. How the counselor reacts to your issues will be greatly determined by their views on such issues.
In order for any counseling session to be successful, there needs to be confidence established. The first step of opening up and talking about their issue is a couple being able to trust their counselor. Going for a counselor you two are not free with will not get you anywhere.
The other thing you need to factor in is the cost for counseling. The two of you need to settle on a counselor you can both afford since different counselors charge different rates. Payment may become another issue you two have to deal with, therefore, figure out a payment plan.
Figure out when the two of you are available for a session before you see the counselor as they mostly work during normal working hours. If you are using during the day, you can find a counselor that has sessions past normal working hours. A counseling session is only effective if the two of you are available.